Health, Relationships

The Gift of a Wound That Never Heals 

I discovered that if I’m strong enough to be weak enough, I’m given a wound that never heals. It’s this gift that keeps my heart open. I discovered that joy – real joy that doesn’t deny what’s difficult in our lives – is a choice. Joy finds us when we’re willing to acknowledge that we belong – to ourselves; to another; to the world; to the mystery that is so much larger than ourselves.

Caregivers, Relationships

11 Ways Caregivers Can Keep Stress And Burnout At Bay

Caring for a loved one can be a full-time job, often on top of another full-time job and competing family obligations. According to CDC data, one in five U.S. adults provide informal care for loved ones, with one in six non-caregivers expecting to start caring for a loved one within the next two years . While the work of a caregiver can be draining, it can also be rewarding and provide a sense of fulfillment.

Health, Relationships

We Have Come to be Danced: Transforming Grief into Grace

Each time our health worsens or we undergo another surgery, another diagnosis, we experience a new wave of grief. It’s death by 1,000 cuts. It’s progression within progression, one disease playing off the other. It’s Relapse. Remission. Recurrence.


In Sickness and in Health: Losing Friends to Chronic Illness

It took me several years to truly understand that what happened with my friends was not malicious or intentional; it was the unfortunate by product of change. It was the natural shift that occurs when people are no longer moving in the same direction. Like a road that reaches a fork, I went left while they went right.

Chronic Pancreatitis, Relationships

Starting Over – Again

The wheel on the hospital gurney made a continuous squeaking sound as they wheeled me down the hall to the operating room. It was one of those incessant noises that would normally drive me crazy, but for some reason that morning I found it comforting. Grounding.